Day 75 Transcending Social pressure, Distractions and Seeking Validation

 Today, I was invited by friends to have lunch, during which a friend brought up a football match. This friend asked me to search for the match and play it on my phone. Initially, I decided to watch only while eating and then return to my work. However, I ended up watching the entire match, spending an hour and a half that I had planned to use for work. During the match, I experienced emotions like excitement, especially when there were good results for the team we supported.

I realized that, in this situation, I was influenced by the desire for approval and validation from my friends, engaging in the activity to fit in and be accepted. I also noted that I did not maintain self-awareness or breathe to keep myself grounded, allowing the excitement and emotional involvement to take over. This led me to neglect my responsibilities and not adhere to the boundaries I had initially set for myself.

Reflecting on this, I see the importance of staying true to my commitments and being mindful of my actions, especially in social settings where there may be pressure to conform. I also recognize the need to practice self-awareness and manage emotional responses to avoid being carried away by distractions.

**Self-Forgiveness:**

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be influenced by my friend's conversation about the football match, leading me to watch the game instead of following through with my work plan.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to prioritize entertainment over my responsibilities and commitments, wasting one hour and a half that could have been used productively.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be distracted easily and not remain self-directed in my actions and decisions.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel regret and guilt afterward for not sticking to my plan, instead of taking preventive measures to stay focused.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to seek approval and validation by engaging in activities that friends or certain persons like, so I am validated and accepted.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create and play a personality that seeks approval and validation from others by engaging in activities they enjoy, even when it goes against my own priorities and commitments.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that I need others' approval to feel accepted and valued, instead of standing by my own decisions and responsibilities.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to compromise my own plans and self-direction in order to fit in and be liked by others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to search for the football match and play it on my phone, under the pretext of just watching while eating, knowing that this decision could lead to a distraction from my work.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not uphold the boundary I set for myself, as I ended up watching the entire match instead of stopping after eating and returning to my work.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to override my initial commitment to limit my engagement with the match, choosing to indulge in the distraction instead of prioritizing my responsibilities.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not remain self-aware and breathe while watching the football match during my meal, allowing myself to become absorbed in the emotions and excitement of the game.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to experience excitement and thoughts of victory when there were good results in the match, without bringing myself back to the present moment and my initial intention to only watch while eating.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to get caught up in the excitement and emotions of the game, which led me to continue watching the entire match instead of stopping after eating and returning to my work.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to use the excitement and entertainment of the match as an excuse to avoid my work responsibilities, thus neglecting my initial plan and commitment.

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**Self-Corrective and Self-Commitment Statements:**

When and as I notice myself being tempted to engage in activities that are not part of my plan, I commit myself to take a moment to breathe and remind myself of my priorities and commitments.

I commit myself to practice self-acceptance and self-validation, recognizing that my worth is not dependent on others' approval or opinions.

I commit myself to be honest with myself and others about my true interests and boundaries, instead of compromising them to fit in or be liked.

I commit myself to build and maintain relationships based on mutual respect and authenticity, rather than a need for validation.

I commit myself to remind myself that my actions and decisions should be guided by my own principles and goals, rather than by a desire to please others or gain their approval.

When and as I make a decision to engage in a distraction or a break, I commit myself to set a clear time limit or boundary and stick to it, ensuring that I return to my priorities and responsibilities as planned.

I commit myself to be mindful of my decisions and the potential consequences, being honest with myself about whether I can maintain control over the situation or if it could lead to further distraction.

I commit myself to strengthen my self-discipline, recognizing when to say 'no' to distractions and to uphold my commitments, even in social situations.

I commit myself to take responsibility for my time and actions, ensuring that I remain focused on my goals and do not allow external influences to derail my plans.

I commit myself to stay self-aware and present, using my breath as an anchor to bring myself back to the present moment whenever I notice myself becoming absorbed in emotions or distractions.

I commit myself to recognize and understand the emotional triggers, like excitement, that may arise in situations and to manage them without letting them override my initial intentions and commitments.