Day 84 : Obsessive over a potential partner

 Self-Forgiveness Statements:

1. I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to become obsessive and possessive over a potential partner, creating an imaginative relationship in my mind that I believe exists, without considering the physical reality of the situation.
2. I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to trust my mind’s fantasies and imaginations about relationships more than the actual reality of the human being, ignoring signs that they may not be interested or available.
3. I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create a possessive obsession within my mind, feeding it with energy through constant thoughts, imaginations, and emotions, instead of seeing the person for who they really are.
4. I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to misinterpret another person’s behavior or communication as an indication of interest, based on the relationship I’ve already created in my imagination.
5. I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear losing the relationship I’ve created in my mind, driving myself to control and obsess over it to try to make it real in physical reality.
6. I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to engage in fantasies about relationships, and within that, accumulate energy in my mind that leads to obsessive behavior and possessiveness toward others.
7. I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define myself and my sense of worth based on the success or failure of imaginary relationships, instead of focusing on what is real and practical in physical reality.
8. I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to allow fear of loss to drive my obsessive behavior, attempting to control and secure a relationship that doesn’t exist, instead of facing the reality of the situation.
9. I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to chase after my own imagination in an attempt to manifest it into physical reality, not realizing that I’m not engaging with the actual person, but rather with the fantasies I have created.
10. I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that the relationship I’ve created in my mind is more real than the actual interaction with the person, and within that, ignore the physical signs that indicate otherwise.

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Self-Commitment Statements:

1. When and as I notice myself becoming obsessive or possessive toward someone I’ve just met, I stop and breathe. I realize that this is a result of creating a relationship in my mind that does not yet exist in physical reality, and I commit myself to remain grounded in the reality of the present moment, assessing the situation clearly.

2. When and as I notice myself misinterpreting someone’s behavior or words as an indication of romantic interest, I stop and breathe. I realize that I am projecting my desires and imaginations onto them, and I commit myself to communicate directly and honestly to clarify the situation, rather than relying on assumptions.

3. When and as I notice myself feeding obsessive thoughts and emotions about someone, I stop and breathe. I realize that I am fueling a possession in my mind that is not aligned with reality, and I commit myself to redirect my focus to what is actually happening in the moment, instead of indulging in fantasy.

4. When and as I notice myself fearing the loss of a relationship that exists only in my mind, I stop and breathe. I realize that this fear is rooted in my desire to control the outcome, and I commit myself to let go of the need to control and allow the situation to unfold naturally.

5. When and as I notice myself becoming anxious or rushing to secure a relationship, I stop and breathe. I realize that I am chasing after my own imagination rather than engaging with the person in physical reality, and I commit myself to slow down and get to know the person for who they truly are, rather than who I want them to be.

6. When and as I notice myself focusing on fantasies about relationships and creating energy through them, I stop and breathe. I realize that these fantasies are not serving me in building real connections, and I commit myself to engage with others based on mutual understanding and reality-based interactions.

7. When and as I notice myself defining my self-worth based on the success of imagined relationships, I stop and breathe. I realize that my value is not tied to whether a relationship manifests, and I commit myself to build my self-worth from within, independent of external outcomes.

8. When and as I notice myself trying to manifest a relationship through obsession and control, I stop and breathe. I realize that forcing a relationship based on fantasies will not lead to a healthy connection, and I commit myself to approach relationships with openness, respect, and patience, allowing real bonds to develop naturally.

9. When and as I notice myself disregarding physical reality in favor of imagination, I stop and breathe. I realize that real, meaningful relationships are built on actual interaction, not on imagined connections, and I commit myself to remain aware of what is physically present and respond to that.

10. When and as I notice myself creating unrealistic expectations of relationships in my mind, I stop and breathe. I realize that these expectations lead to disappointment and obsession, and I commit myself to approach relationships with practical, realistic, and clear communication, ensuring mutual understanding and agreement.

Self-Forgiveness Statements:

1. I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to obsess about an individual, constantly thinking about them and imagining future scenarios with them, without considering the reality of who they are as a person.

2. I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create a relationship in my mind based on energy, feelings, and desires, mistaking this as something real rather than assessing the physical and practical compatibility between us.

3. I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to let overwhelming emotions and feelings dominate my thoughts and actions, believing that these emotions are a sign of a real relationship, instead of seeing them as energy-based reactions within my own mind.

4. I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to project my desires onto this individual, imagining a future with them based on my fantasies, rather than interacting with them in real-time to understand who they truly are.

5. I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear the possibility of rejection, letting this fear fuel my desire to control the outcome of a relationship by creating obsessive thoughts and fantasies, instead of facing the reality that things might not work out.

6. I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to avoid direct communication with the person, choosing instead to live out the relationship in my mind, where I have full control, rather than engaging in real interactions and seeing where things stand.

7. I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to base my attraction and obsession on past memories, desires, and fantasies that have accumulated within me, using these as the foundation for my feelings toward this person, rather than considering who they are in the present.

8. I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel the need to fulfill my desires, even when I recognize that there is a lack of compatibility, choosing to suppress my awareness of potential issues because I want the relationship to work for the sake of satisfying my internal cravings.

9. I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react with jealousy and rage when my desires and fantasies are not fulfilled, allowing myself to be consumed by emotions when faced with rejection, instead of accepting that not all relationships are meant to work out.

10. I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to become addicted to obsessive and possessive thoughts about potential relationships, prioritizing my mental fantasies over real, physical experiences, and letting these thoughts guide my behavior rather than facing reality.

Self-Commitment Statements:

1. When and as I notice myself becoming obsessed with someone and imagining a future with them, I stop and breathe. I realize that this obsession is based on energy and desires within my mind and is not reflective of the reality of who they are.

2. I commit myself to ground myself in physical reality by focusing on real, practical interactions with others, assessing relationships based on actual communication and experiences rather than fantasies and projections.

3. When and as I feel overwhelming emotions and feelings toward someone, I stop and breathe. I realize that these emotions are not an indicator of a real relationship but are energy reactions from within my own mind.

4. I commit myself to approach relationships with self-honesty, recognizing when my desires and fantasies are clouding my judgment and focusing on practical compatibility and mutual understanding.

5. When and as I fear rejection and try to control the outcome of a relationship through obsessive thoughts, I stop and breathe. I realize that rejection is a natural part of life, and trying to manipulate outcomes through my mind will only lead to more emotional turmoil.

6. I commit myself to engage in open, honest communication with others about my thoughts and feelings, rather than living out relationships in my imagination where I avoid the vulnerability of real interaction.

7. When and as I notice myself using past memories and fantasies to shape my feelings toward someone, I stop and breathe. I realize that my attraction must be based on the present moment and the reality of the person, not on past experiences or fantasies.

8. I commit myself to be self-honest about potential incompatibilities in relationships and not allow my desire to be in a relationship to blind me to practical reality.

9. When and as I react with jealousy or rage when my fantasies are not fulfilled, I stop and breathe. I realize that these reactions are a sign that I was living in an illusion of the mind, and I need to return to physical reality where I can process my emotions constructively.

10. I commit myself to remain present in real, physical relationships, ensuring that I do not become addicted to obsessive thinking or fantasizing about potential partners, and instead, focus on building real, grounded connections with others.