Day 96 : The Word: Deserving — From Judgment to Living Worth


This article will guide the reader from the mind’s idea of deserving (based on comparison, self-judgment, and energy) to the living reality of worthiness — where value is expressed through self-honesty, responsibility, and creation. 
Read it out loud to get more benefit.

🌕 The Word: Deserving — From Judgment to Living Worth

1️⃣ Current Understanding

When I hear the word Deserving, I notice how much energy it carries — thoughts like:
“Do I deserve success?”
“Do I deserve love?”
“Do I deserve happiness?”

It’s a word that often hides comparison, guilt, and fear of unworthiness.
For most of my life, I’ve used “deserving” as a mental scale: if I’ve done “enough,” then I deserve good things; if I’ve failed or made mistakes, I deserve punishment or lack.

But this entire system of “deserving” is a mind-creation — a game of polarity.
Life itself doesn’t measure deserving. The air, the sun, the earth — they give unconditionally.
So, what if deserving is not about earning, but about living?

2️⃣ Expanded Understanding

In the Desteni process, Deserving is redefined from energy polarity (better/worse, worthy/unworthy) into self-responsibility and self-creation.

I deserve to live what I create through who I am and what I stand for.
If I create consistency, discipline, and care — I deserve stability.
If I create self-dishonesty, blame, and neglect — I deserve the consequences of that.

So deserving is not a reward or punishment — it is the mirror of what I live.
When I stop chasing worth from others and live my own value in action, I become the cause of what I deserve.

3️⃣ Deep Self-Forgiveness

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define “deserving” through comparison, measuring myself against others’ success or worth.


I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that I must earn love, attention, or care, instead of realizing that real worth is who I am as life, equally as everyone.


I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to use guilt to make myself believe I don’t deserve good things, instead of seeing that guilt only maintains self-sabotage.


I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel undeserving of money, support, or success, because of past failures or mistakes, instead of realizing that each breath is a new chance to live responsibility and change.


I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to connect “deserving” with external validation — waiting for others to tell me I’m worthy, instead of realizing that worthiness is lived, not granted.


 I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear losing what I have, because I secretly believe I don’t deserve it, instead of realizing that fear of loss comes from not standing equal to what I have created.


I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge others as undeserving, not realizing that in doing so, I’m separating myself from the equality of life.


I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that “deserving” is about being better, when in truth it’s about being responsible.


I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to manipulate myself with thoughts like “I don’t deserve rest, joy, or support,” instead of realizing that self-care is a living responsibility, not a luxury.


I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear living my full potential, because I still hold on to the belief that I’m not good enough to deserve it.

4️⃣ Self-Correction

When and as I notice myself thinking, “I don’t deserve this” or “I’m not worthy,”
👉 I stop and breathe.
I realize this thought is a program of self-judgment — not truth.
I remind myself that life gives equally to all; it’s my responsibility to live my part fully.

When and as I notice myself comparing my life to others,
👉 I stop and breathe.
I realize that comparison separates me from my own path of creation.
I return to what I can live, change, or direct here and now.

When and as I notice guilt or shame arising,
👉 I stop and breathe.
I realize these emotions are invitations to correct myself — not punish myself.
I choose to apply self-forgiveness and take practical corrective action.

5️⃣ Self-Commitment

I commit myself to live deserving as self-responsibility — to create what I want to live, instead of waiting for it.


I commit myself to stop measuring my worth based on comparison, judgment, or approval.


I commit myself to honor my life through daily practical action: working, learning, caring for my body, and expanding my potential.


I commit myself to remind myself that no one is more or less deserving than another — all are life in expression.


I commit myself to transform guilt into self-direction, failure into correction, and doubt into presence.


I commit myself to deserve through who I am being, not through what I am chasing.

6️⃣ Living Redefinition

Deserving → Living Equal Worth through Responsibility

To deserve means to live in alignment with life:
to give as I would like to receive,
to express my potential without self-judgment,
and to create outcomes that reflect who I choose to be.

It’s not about permission or reward.
It’s about embodying the worth I already am, through living action.

7️⃣ Practical Living Application

  • Each morning, write one sentence: “Today, I deserve to live my full potential by ___.” Fill in the blank with an action (e.g., showing up to work fully, breathing through resistance, speaking with honesty).
  • Each evening, reflect: “Did I live what I said I deserve today?”
  • Whenever guilt or unworthiness arises, breathe and apply self-forgiveness immediately.

✨ Closing Realization

Deserving is no longer a question — it is a living decision.
I no longer wait to be validated.
I create my worth, moment by moment, breath by breath.

Life doesn’t ask who deserves.
Life simply gives — equally.
It’s up to me to receive it, live it, and express it fully.


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